(Examples: Surfing the internet, Shopping, Constantly trying to please people)

(Examples: Anger, Hurt, Sadness, Fear, Joy, Love)

Examples of negative thoughts (stinking thinking)
Overgeneralization: This always happens to me!
All or Nothing: If you're going to be late, don't bother coming at all.
Magnification: This is an absolute disaster.
Can't/Won't: I can't get this done on time.
Always/Never: You never call me back.
Jumping to conclusions: I'm sure that's what he meant.
Mind Reading: I knew he didnʼt like me. He didnʼt even say hello this morning.
Fortune Telling: I know this isn't going to work.
Projection: You're angry with me, aren't you?
Mental Filter: Dinner was ruined; the soup wasn't right.
Prejudice: I could tell he wasn't trustworthy just by looking at him.
Dismissing the Positives: It was only a little thing, it didn't really matter.
Magical Thinking: I am sure it will all work out somehow.
Helpless/Hopeless: No matter what I do it won't make a dfference.
Emotional Reasoning: I feel bad, I must be bad.
Should statements: I should have done that earlier.
Blame and Shame: It's her fault we were late for the party.
Labelling: I am a jerk for not remembering her birthday.
Looped thinking/Obsession/Perseveration: I won't be late. I won't be late.

(Examples: I am not beloved, worthy or precious, My emotions are not important, There is no support for me, The world is an uncaring place)

Positive thoughts are thoughts reflecting the reality of the situation, or thoughts that are humorous, compassionate or forgiving.
Examples of positive thoughts
This happens from time to time, but I can handle it.
This is tough, but it's not insurmountable.
I can get this done on time.
Sometimes things go wrong.
I wonder what he meant by that. I'll ask him.
I feel nervous, but I can see how this will turn out OK.
The soup didn't turn out, but the rest of the meal was great.
I know I don't know him, so I will keep an open mind.
My contributions count in the big picture.
I need to apply myself to make sure this works out.
I can do it.
I feel upset, but that doesn't make me a bad person.
I didn't do that sooner, but I can learn from

Examples:

To exist	To be heard	To be touched
To be loved	To be affirmed	To express
To experience fully	To learn	To grow
To trust	To develop	To be known
To matter	To be close	To feel connected